About
SingleParentResourceCenter
was born out of my life journey of becoming an unplanned Single Parent Father of my three beautiful children.
Completely shocked one day when I came home from work and my ex said, I no longer live here and she filed for divorce. I was homeless, living out of my car for a few weeks. Then on my parent’s couch; with my clothes in a closet and only a few belongings. That’s the time I realized, My ex had a stone-cold self-centered heart.
Even though the court granted me to see my children every other weekend, my ex was not cooperative in letting me see them. I had to go to court and file complaints. When I did get a chance to see my children, they were defiantly neglected and needed attention real badly. I learned to make every second count. You could see the hunger to be with me in their eyes. I felt helpless. The system in the 1990s was against fathers getting the rights to see their children. The attorney I had was one of the best and said soberly to me, the system is rigged against you.
I focused on paying off all my debts and getting an apartment so that I could have a place for me and my children, without having my parents over my shoulder – making comments.
A LONG THREE YEAR battle. Then finally Me and My Children had a break through. My ex was moving out of state and was insisting I went with her. I laughed. So you hate me here and Now the Odds are you’ll hate me there. No Thank You. Not playing your b!tch move games. With that, I got full custody of my children. My ex could fly them out to her state location; but all the expenses were on her. She didn’t do it, so I basically had my children all year.
But one year she did pull one of her b!tch moves. She Showed up illegally out of the blue with police. They hand cuffed me in front of my children. While one of my children was holding on my leg for dear life, the police man gave me a bloody toe. I was in shock, while saying “Do you know where my children are going? Till this day she never gave me her address to where she was living.” They ignored me and made me stay in jail over night. This is when I had the sober reality of what it is like living in a police state. No LEGAL PREMISE. Got with my attorney, he said – It never happened in the county I was living. NEVER. I WAS THE FIRST.
My children were petrified. It’s the worse looks on their faces I have ever seen. I was more then helpless as the Police were hauling me off to jail. Even my neighbors were in shock and could not believe the police could do that.
My ex’s b!tch move backed fired on her. My children were always complaining about what she did to them and wanted to go home, RIGHT NOW! In no time, she sent my children back to me. It was priceless. She never did it again. Any finally, Me and My Children were set free from a Cold Hearted Self-Centered woman – called their mom. And all of her random b!tch @ss moves.
It was hard and hugely rewarding Single Parent Raising of My Three Children Journey and Experience. PRICELESS. Would do it ALL OVER AGAIN without blinking and eye. Seriously. That Priceless.
This Single Parent Journey as a Father OPENED MY EYES BIGTIME to what ALL the Single Parent Mothers were/are going through. I was fortunate to have somewhat of a good paying job. My heart goes out to all the Single Parent Mothers who didn’t/don’t have the resources to raise their children, like at least I had. Plus; now there’s more single parent mothers, more than ever before with even less options than before.
THUS THIS SingleParentResourceCenter WAS BORN!
Out of my Single Parent Journey.
Currently we’re starting out slow. First we will lay the foundation of meeting the needs of our Single Parent Mothers and Father’s by ministering to ALL the Mental Stresses we go through as Single Parents. It hits US the hardest when we cry ourselves to sleep.
NOT NO MORE! First we’ll go on this Restoration of the Family Journey Together. 1. Restoring Our Spirits, Minds and Hearts. 2. Restoring Our Children’s Spirts, Minds and Hearts. 3. Then the Insights in Finding a Life Long Spouse. – Never EVER TOLD BEFORE. YUP. In my raising my children by myself and observing all of the couples around me through that process: I discovered keys how to know if someone is compatible, in less than five minutes. No more wasting time, efforts and countless relationships; only to be worse off than before. Plus with the regards in looking back all those years and saying to myself. I would of been better off being alone all those years raising my children by myself verses trying to find a partner to help me raise them.
In closing. This was me. During the time my children were ripped out of my life and I had to patiently fight for them back. While being alone by myself every where I went, I was observing couples. How they interacted with each other and with their children. It all appeared surface level. There was no depth to their interacting with each other. It didn’t appear enriching for none of them. Then I added the thought, OK. I get another spouse. This spouse will not be the birth parent of my children – so they will never have the deep connection that the actual parent has. Then I work at making sure my new spouse knows I love them and are apart of our new fragmented family. I rested on that and then thought. NOPE. I’d rather spend all that time, having a deeper relationship with my children vs trying to get another partner. Ok. Done Deal. I was ALL IN in being a Single Parent Father ALL by MYSELF. PERIOD. Then when their all grown up and on their own, then think about finding another partner.
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